After three failed attempts of trying to record on my phone, I am resorting to writing a blog on "Negativity". I needed to write more material anyways. I started a spiritual fast this past Sunday. Some of my findings have been intriguing, humbling & most of all satisfying. First & foremost, I felt extremely compelled to disassociate myself from my phone. Social Media, Friends (SORRY GUYS) & whatever else so I can really sit with Jasmyn.
First off, What is negativity?
Negativity: the expression of criticism of or pessimism about something.
You can be sure someone is negative when all they want to do is focus on their setbacks or your setbacks instead of trying to make an effort in enjoying what you do have. You can be sure a person is negative if anytime you express a desire to advance and they are always interrogating with questions that they claim are out of pure concern but are really to create doubt so you will not go on to fulfill what it is you really want.
Here is what I have found to be true about "Negativity". It is indeed cancerous & infectious. If you are vibrating on a level that is negative, you make yourself extremely prone to an onset of negativity. Some negative waves are depression, guilt, shame, anger, disappointment, sadness etc. A lot of us have been resorting to negativity as a safety net. "Let me not get ahead of myself" is what some will say when they really wanna belt out how excited or eager they really are but mask it with negativity deeply hoping for a breakthrough. WHY ARE WE ASHAMED OR IN FEAR OF OUR BREAKTHROUGH? IS IT US THAT'S AFRAID OR THE SPIRITS THAT HAVE A STRONGHOLD ON OUR LIVES AFRAID OF OUR DELIVERANCE. I AM GUILTY OF THIS. No one has ever kicked my behind the way I have. Self loathing became a hobby. I dedicated a major block of my day to just pity myself.
Granted, I did have my grandma to always instill in me the importance of being positive & optimistic. A lot of people claim they understand the depth of what I have stated but I have observed the opposite. We are obviously oblivious to the dangers of negativity because we are now even making light & joking about suicide, death, unemployment, setbacks, family issues,abortion & many other atrocities. Why? Why can't we speak positive affirmations over our life that will bring forth life like we are worthy, we are smart, we are special, we are creative etc.
I tell my boys everyday how special, intelligent & sweet they are. Not just for fun but to create in them the ability to see themselves as they are so they can go out & empower & uplift whoever that may need it. It is our job while we are on earth to empower those that need it. We are our brother's keeper & vice versa.
How the hell is negative speaking funny? IT IS INAPPROPRIATE. Some argue that this is a way to "cope" but has it been effective? Let's start by dissecting why our brains even embrace negativity. There's a strong chance that many of us have only gotten the short end of the stick & find it almost natural to expect less. Why is our brain wired to receive negativity over positivity?
Some of us have tried stepping out on faith only to fall on our behind and hear a few cackling hyena's in the back laughing. I've been there! I have had people laugh at me for trying something new but you know what, I don't regret it. Had I stayed in a comfortable state out of fear I wouldn't be received, I would have been complacent. I would have never amounted to ANYTHING.
If someone gets a promotion, our first thought is "Dang, why not me"? If someone buys a home, we come back with "Well they got it with the help of their parents"? WHO CARES HOW THEY GOT IT? Their life is pressing forward. This is an exciting moment and all we can seem to do is highlight ourselves. Negativity has attached itself to us and has now birthed an ugly monster that disables a person from seeing beyond themselves. Therefore, it's true what they say when people say "They can't see it for you". They cannot understand your weight loss, your new car, your ambition, your relationship, your job, your family, your house or anything good that comes to you simply because they cannot see it for themselves.
For example, I have not had alcohol since April. I would appreciate it if people would stop encouraging me to drink. I have expressed time & time again why I even got involved in drinking in the first place. I lost my daughter as some of you may know & I didn't want to deal with her loss and drink my liver away. I have shared the depths of what fighting addiction has been like for me only for people to encourage the negative behavior. Initially, I felt disrespected. I was annoyed and then I thought back to a place in my life where someone explained to me why they couldn't participate in something we would both indulge in together and I was baffled & confused. I now understand what that person was trying to explain to me. They were evolving and couldn't deal with my negative garbage.
This is why they are unable to achieve their higher self. True, negativity is heavy. It can really kick your butt. However, we become friends with negativity and we fuel those very thoughts. When we get up in the morning, some of us dread the day before it starts. THE NERVE! Someone right now is bed ridden and would love to just take themselves to the bathroom and here we are as able bodied human beings unable to find the joys in our day!
Negativity is so counterproductive that it convinces you that you aren't what you are just so it can have a place in your life. Negativity is just that negative. It is unaware of itself because it doesn't know itself. In order to combat negativity, you have to be secure within yourself, love yourself, honor yourself & invest in yourself. Self-care can only remedy negativity. In addition to being in the presence of other POSITIVE PEOPLE. We have to hold ourselves accountable & others accountable for what we are being fed spiritually, emotionally & mentally. It is natural for things to happen that are beyond our control. The question is have we been empowered enough & enlightened enough to combat negativity without resorting to destructive behaviors.Do you understand you cannot stay there? You have permission to modify your life for the better. I challenge you to challenge those negative thinking people to this:
"Ask them why are they still here if there is no good left in this world for them?"
If they insist on fighting you, I encourage you to remove yourself from that environment or that person because GREATNESS AWAITS. It is more to life than self loathing and destructive behaviors. SMILE! ENGAGE! BE IN THE MOMENT! You will never get back today. You will never do over yesterday. You have made mistakes but they do not have to define who you are. Anyone on a mission to highlight your wrongs need to go back in the bed and start the day over FOR REAL because we all have fallen short and can be penalized at any moment of the day. We are just not perfect but we are perfectly IMPERFECT.
Negativity is like the invisible friend that can't get it's way because it's never acknowledged so it causes a scene at your wedding, graduation & event just to take the shine. Crazy thing about negativity is that once people look at the spectacle, it fuels it to cause more of an uproar because negativity seeks out other misinformed people to feed off of once it has an audience, prepare for a show. A show at your own demise.
We have to believe we deserve better and if that is hard for us to process, please don't invade on another person's life with your junk. It is infectious and not helpful. We have to take our time all while guarding out hearts from being robbed blind of joy & moments we will never ever get back. Sometimes the proper cleaning house of negativity may include letting people go. It is your own choice but we must ask ourselves, Are we willing to have less just because people are scared of having more?
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